However counterintuitive it may be, the many traits I profoundly dislike about myself don’t hold me back from loving myself, and that’s all that matters.
All the pain I’ve gone through in spite of my privileges, and all the effort I’ve put into becoming worthy of my own love and respect, they all have to count for something, and they surely do.
I say, I’m smitten with my quirkiness—my behaviour and way of thinking, the way I smile and chortle, and the sounds I make when I’m nervous or livid; the way I empathize with others, the helping hands I’ve lent, how I repress outbursts of profanity, only to let it all out in a stream of impotence; the scars on my skin, the missing parts of my body, my unaligned spine and crooked fingers, all the sinister and archaic terminology I’ve obstinately internalized, only to fail to name commonplace objects; the occasional stuttering, the frequent cracking of my bones, the strength I muster up to overcome my tinnitus day after day, and the endless stimming that mollifies my soul; my voice, hair, and toes, my eyes and eyelashes, and all the moles scattered throughout my body.
I’m deeply in love with how I deal with my mild OCD, ADHD, and possible Asperger’s, as I am the way I internally control my tantrums, which oftentimes are at odds with the circumstances.
I’m absolutely enraptured by my compersion for others; how affectionate and kindhearted I am, the good friend that I am, the loving and thoughtful partner I am, who cares too much about everything but fails to pull himself together in a few key moments as a result of being overly overwhelmed.
I love my words, my accent, and my articulation. I love my naiveté that gets me in trouble every time I socialize, and I also love my softness and femininity that permeate my musical and literary preferences.
And, after all this, all I can think of is how much my awesomeness far outweighs my flaws, and how much more fascinated rather than repulsed by myself I am.
So, during gloomy days like today, remember these words—your words—, embrace and celebrate your identity, and please never cease to stay true to yourself.